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Gluten-free or nah?

Before I head on and share my two cents I’d like to go ahead and explain what gluten even is. In general, is gluten, just a protein form that’s found in wheat, barley, rye and oats. Gluten helps maintaining the shape and gives elasticity to the dough.

If you’re new to it you’re probably wondering what the purpose of a gluten-free diet is?

A gluten-free diet concerns only to people who have a celiac disease. Now if you’re not effected a gluten-free diet shouldn’t necessarily concern you. Today, you’ll find all kinds of stuff, people will promote anything; however, not everything promoted is something that we need. If that is the case, then why are there so many products that offer gluten-free choices?

Unfortunately, I don’t have an answer to that question and I’m sure that there are many possibilities to it. But what I do have are facts to whether you should pursue a gluten-free diet, continue it or just blatantly stop it. Without wasting much of your time here are a few facts:

  1. Did you know about the celiac disease?

Stop, don’t go on google now…! Most people that are on a gluten-free diet doesn’t know whether they’re infected with the disease or not. Unless you’ve undergone a doctrinal test and learned that you have the celiac disease, you most likely don’t have any abnormal reaction to gluten. An allergic reaction to gluten can damage the lining of the small intestine. Symptoms of celiac disease include diarrhea, anemia, bone pain, and a severe skin rash called dermatitis herpetiformis.

Ask yourself does any of the above apply to me eating gluten?

  1. What am I abstaining from?

Going completely gluten-free also means to abstain from a lot of common and nutritious foods. Today, we can find gluten in almost everything such as breads, cereals, crackers, pastry goods, conventional pastas and most processed food made with amounts of gluten.

To eliminate gluten completely will add to nutritional deficiencies, hence, gluten-free products tend to be low in nutrients. Most gluten-free products aren’t rich in vitamins, calcium, iron, zinc, magnesium and fiber. On the other hand, to have a gluten-free diet you’d have to constantly double check what you’re eating. I have personally watched what I eat, but even I as a “cautious” eater, wouldn’t want to constantly see whether I can or not eat certain dishes.

So, before you take on the decision I want you to really think it through!

  1. Watch your pockets!

A gluten-free diet can be very expensive. The majority of the gluten-free products are often twice the price compared to conventional products. I underwent a gluten-free diet myself and I must say that there were positive such as negative aspects of the entire diet. What you guys should know though is that my original intent wasn’t it to go gluten-free, but instead I stayed away from wheat. As I informed myself more on what I was doing, I saw that the wheat was tied to gluten and that’s how I came about my seven-week gluten-free experience. So here are my positive experiences: First, I did lose weight and this in a significant amount. Second, I felt much lighter on my feet, which helped me to move faster while running. Third, I had gotten much leaner and didn’t feel bloated at all. Nevertheless, those weeks hit my pockets! As an example, regular gluten-free bread costs about 3 Euros for only 11 slices, whereas conventional bread can be bought for less than a euro or two. Most products were found in that range, so you can think how my grocery shopping went.. Ended up almost being BROKE lol.

So, just to give you guys some information on it. I don’t despise or trying to withhold you from a gluten-free diet, but I want you to get tested first before making the attempt. It’ll not only save your pockets, but also give you a clue on how your body responds to gluten. Finally, it’s not needed to follow every trend that the industry is trying to shovel down on us. On top of that, gluten is also found in a lot of cosmetic, hair and other dermatological products. You’d really have to go out of your way to avoid gluten completely and this can be a stretch..


So, sometimes it’s better to go against the grain ;)!



So I have been shooting a #Documentary concerning my life… It is one of my heart desire not to die without impacting people’s life. I want to leave everything here on earth, so that when the day of departure comes – I can look Him in the eye and say I gave everything you’ve given me. Here’s an short outlook…enjoy!  #FAITH

Soul ties and hardships

What’s up? It’s been quite a while… I’ve been ask a multiple times, by a friend, to speak about this huge topic that is highly unspoken of. At first I wasn’t so sure how to go about it, but I think I’ve found the right words to share with you guys.

When I think about „Soul ties and hardships“ I could relate it to plenty of things. Today however I specifically want to speak about it in terms of sex. If you’ve been raised in an African household, like me, you probably are aware that „sex“ is never to me mentioned nor even thought of. The one and only thing our parents tell us is that it is forbidden and not to be done until we’re married. I don’t have a problem the way my parents raised me, nevertheless what bothers me, is that they’ve never been able to explain to me „why“ sex belongs to a married couple. Of course, did they refer to the bible, but as a teenage guy you don’t really want to listen to that. Growing up I was never really able to speak about sex, despite the fact that school education wasn’t helping, a few „knowledgeable friends“ thought they knew it all; was the question „Are you a virgin“ from my pastor not helping me at all – sigh.

Well as I tried to figure things out myself, life did taught me a very valuable lesson:

„It’s all fun until you meet the crazy one“

I’m sure you can picture here what happened… No I didn’t get anyone pregnant (THANK YOU JESUS), but this experience did made me think twice and actually led me into giving my life to Christ. I remember it as if it happened yesterday, it was January 5th 2012, I was laying in bed and thought about what I’ve done. This experience was so awful that I decided to really stop playing games and to finally give in. I kept on running away and trying to have things go my way… it was all fun until I met that crazy one… & this was enough for me to say „Here I am Lord, please forgive me and do with me as you please!“ It’s a wonder that I’m still alive. I thought God would have struck me by now, but He didn’t.

In order for you to understand what I’m writing about the introduction was needed. So, now that you know where I’m coming from lets start…

Soul ties – A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse.

I know a lot of people don’t like to hear that, but this is the law of God & this is how he designed it. Sex is meant to be done in marriage between a man and a woman.

Let me take you a few steps backs, so that you can understand this…

God is a covenant God. A covenant is an agreement between two people. Understand that a covenant can only be done with giving a sacrifice. What God requires from that sacrifice is blood.

Covenants done in the Old Testament were different from now.  You can see that with the story of Abraham in Genesis 17:9-11Then God said to Abraham, „As for you, you must keep my covenant, you and your descendants after you for the generations to come. This is my covenant with you and your descendants after you, the covenant you are to keep: Every male among you shall be circumcised. You are to undergo circumcision, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and you ..“

The significance about the circumcision was the blood that was spilled during the process and this is what God accepted. Another form of sacrifice God required, in the Old Testament, was the sacrificial blood of animals for any committed sin. There are plenty of examples I could give you, but we thank God for letting Christ go to the cross and take the penalty we were supposed to take. Through the blood of Jesus we don’t have to do this anymore and have access to God. This is our new covenant with God.

So we got that covered too, great…

The reason a couple supposed to be untouched (both being virgins) before marriage lays within significance of the covenant. Excurse: When the husband penetrates his wife and gets through the hymen tissue; the wife will feel some discomfort and bleeding could occur (that’s if the hymen tissue didn’t tear before hand). However, this process is acknowledge by God as the covenant between the two of you becoming one – (Gen. 2-24).

Ladies and gentlemen, a ring alone does not make the both of you husband and wife. The sexual intercourse is what seals the marriage before God.

The question now is… What happens when you have sex outside of marriage?

No, you’re not going to hell. The only way one will miss heaven is through denouncing Jesus Christ as his/her personal Lord and Savior; e.g. pride. But, just as anything else done outside of it’s norm are there consequences attached to it. Experiencing such consequences can be very troublesome to the soul. I’m speaking out of experience. What one must know is that the mentioned scripture above remains true, even today, it doesn’t matter who you sleep with. Once slept with somebody the two of you are automatically one.

What does it mean to be one?

Sexual intercourse, as fun as it is, doesn’t just exchange physical liquids and skin particles. But sex involves, the spirit, the mind and a persons emotions; this means having sex goes way deeper than it just happening physical. During the intercourse, the two of you exchange spiritual, emotional and mental traits too. If your partner has anger issues, daddy issues, bad sleeping habits, anxiety, depression etc. it is very likely for you to develop some, not all, but some of those traits.

Here comes the „scary part“, now picture yourself after sleeping with person A; continuing and now having sex with person B,C,D,E & F…  you are now practically „married“ six times before God. Breaking it down – you’ve attached yourself to six different souls. Let that sink in…

So, one may ask what’s so bad about it!? Well… Everything! You guys didn’t just had a „great time“, you two practically shared parts of your life together; possibly forever. It’s normal to share experiences with other people. We also attach ourselves and detach ourselves through out seasons. After all to detach yourself from a persons soul isn’t easy at all.

How do I know if I’m entangled in a bad soul tie?

There are Godly soul ties don’t mistake this, but an ungodly soul tie is something you shouldn’t want to deal with. I think the easiest way to figure this question out is to simply check your records. If you’ve been sexually active then check how many it were/is. Another way to identify a soul tie is through having every now and then flashbacks. Flashbacks remind you on specific intimate moments you shared with someone. Those flashbacks happen in order to keep your mind and body occupied with sexual desires. There are also possibilities that you may find yourself unknowingly in moody seasons, which could result through the soul tie you’re connected to.

What do I do now? That’s the big question & I’m glad you asked that..

There are three things you need to do now. 1. Repent. 2. Repent & 3. Repent again.

  1.  One is required to repent and acknowledge that they’ve sinned against God. When you read the story of Joseph you get to see his answer to Potiphar’s wife, who was trying to seduce him: „No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” (Gen 39:9 – NIV). Notice here how he acknowledge that this would be a sin against God first.
  2. One must repent for the sake of him/herself – for they’ve sinned against their own body. „Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;  you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.“ (1. Corinthians 6:19-20 – NIV)
  3. Both need to repent because the both have sinned against each other.

In order to break this covenant and to be able to move on, the two of you need to come together in prayer, agreeing and pleading the blood of Jesus for it to break. „Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.“ (Matt. 18:19 – NIV)

It is not impossible for God to restore you and help you to break free from any ungodly soul tie. It’s up to you to want it though. I think I’ve written enough for now, I could have said so much more; but I’m sure this is all I’m supposed to write. I hope I didn’t scare you and could educate you enough. Many of us aren’t aware of this, so I’d encourage you to share this information with others too. I’m not trying to save anybody, Jesus did that already; neither am I trying to stop you all from having sex. I simply want to make you guys aware of its consequences because I’ve found myself wrapped in ungodly soul ties. I just don’t want you guys to continue the cycle or do repeat the same mistake.

With that being said.. Continue to stay in prayer and maintain what Christ has finished.

Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.

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Basic principles on living a life after Christ

In God’s kingdom everything is structured and serves its purpose, there’s nothing occurring just because. God’s laws still exist today and there is no one able to achieve a goal without sticking to its required principles. In order to be successful, life will require some of your sacrifices. Note that this blog entry isn’t promoting monetary gain, but supposed to guide people in living a successful life after Christ. God is a God of principles and no one existing is exempt from them.

It is vital for us to follow each principle because behind every principle there lays a promise.

God grants us these promises not because we deserve it, but because He loves us, following His instructions also ties Him to keeping His word and lets it be fulfilled.

Short example: There’s no increase without a sacrifice… However you call it whether it be the laws of the World, the laws of nature or you simply admit that it’s God – without planting a seed one cannot grow a tree. Got it? Good!

The same principle applies to anybody who wants to live successfully within the Kingdom of God. I happened to study the second book of Timothy and bumped into the instructions given from Apostle Paul to Timothy, a young man who wholeheartedly followed to live after Christ.

Studying it I found five vital information, which I believe every Christ follower should know and apply unto his/her life.

I hope you’re ready to take notes:

1. Be under the authority of God
2. Timothy 2:1 “Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.”

Timothy was about sixteen years of age when Apostle Paul first worked with him. It is said that he travelled for about fifteen years with Paul before the two departed and Timothy was sent to the church of Ephesus. What’s important here is to know that his first instruction given was to be “strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus”. Why would Paul tell him to be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus? Paul, who was then Saul, persecuted everybody who claimed to be a follower of Christ. He received permission to imprison everyone who just mentioned the name of Jesus. Until he encountered Jesus himself, the experience of forgiveness and receiving a second chance, which he didn’t deserve, was given to him by the grace that is found in Christ Jesus. I’ve written about it in one of my earlier entries called – On the road to Damascus – read it to get full understanding of this. 🙂

Grace means to obtain favor for something you shouldn’t. Paul, then Saul, should have gotten the same treatment from God – the way he treated every follower of Christ. However, because Jesus went on the cross for our sins – Saul didn’t get the same treatment; instead he obtained favor through Christ by God and got to live a successful life. So, Paul knew what grace meant and understood the importance of finding strength in it. Grace is given to us freely, this by accepting it and committing ourselves to God. Nevertheless, we’re human beings, even though we accept this free gift – we have the tendency to take the simple things in life for granted.

God didn’t bless us with grace to take things for granted, but to be thankful for everything we have because we actually don’t deserve it.

2. Study the field
2. Timothy 2:15 “Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needs not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”

Before you can tell anybody about anything, be sure to know everything about the very thing you’re trying to accomplish.

Timothy had to be about mid-age (approx. in his thirties) when given these instructions by Paul. Him being in his thirties he was still considered to be young, which is why Paul instructed him dearly to study to show himself approved to God and not to man.
There are a lot of people, when first coming to Christ, that want to let the entire world know about what has happened to them. This is good, we need people that are willing to go out and share the gospel. I remember when I first gave my life unto Christ. I was so enticed that I was ready to go out and tell the entire word about my good friend Jesus.

However, not everyone was keen to hear about it, as naive I was – I started condemning everything and everybody that didn’t live according to the way of the gospel. As if I knew what God would require from us all – please don’t do the same mistake lol – I still have to shake my head when I think about it. (John 7:25) „Judge not according to appearance but judge righteous judgements.“

Knowledge is power and God will never expose you publicly, if you haven’t mastered your craft privately. Be a student – read, learn and listen as much as you can, so that when the time comes you’ll be able to teach and reach others.

3. Endure hardness
2. Timothy 2:3 “Therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ”

I think everybody is aware in knowing that nothing good will get to you without a struggle. Experiencing hardships is not a good feeling, but it’s a part of the journey. I caught myself in times of adversary judging the entire situation wrong. Sometimes I’m just ready to quit, but I’ve learned that quitting isn’t an option because rushing through the process will not help me. There are several characteristics we will need to develop, in order to get to our desired place. Unfortunately are these characteristics developed at a place of discomfort, not to just get the best out of you, but more importantly – to get you to a state of absolute dependency on God.

The walk with Christ is, at times an isolated one, however, even though you feel alone, you have to know that you’re never lonely.

REMEMBER: Faith is a mindset not a feeling.

4. Distractions
2 Timothy 2:22: “ Flee from youthful lust, but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.“

A clear vision will allow you to stay focused, however, along the journey you will face devious distractions.
Whatever your struggle is, it is between you and God, you don’t have to publicize it. It is easier to be transparent about it, but this also only with someone you fully trust and is able to give you Godly counsel.

What I want to highlight in this verse, is the importance of having the right people around you. It is one thing to be with people who tolerate you, but it is another thing to be with people who accept, encourage and love you. People that tolerate you, don’t necessarily accept you, they’re mostly just around you for what you own or can do or for them. People that accept, love encourage you are around you for who you are as a person and don’t really care about the things you could do for them – KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

To live successfully it is important for you to distinguish between good and right. Good will only last for a while, whereas right will last you for a lifetime. I remember watching an interview between Myles Munroe and Benny Hinn, as Myles spoke he mentioned something that stuck with me. He was explaining how every exit we choose to take on the highway is good, however, there can only be one exist that leads us to our destination. This one exist that leads us to our destination is the right exit. See it is good to have good people around you, but having the right team around you will help you to get to your destination.

Side note: Elevation requires separation! I just saw a friend of mine posting this I understood this a year a go. I almost forgot about it and was thankful to see this again. I also want to remind you that, if you find yourself losing people for various reasons (trying to live a life after Christ) – I know it’s painful. But as you’re going through it, remember that God has to clear out the clutter that is found in your life to get you to your final destination.

5. Humbleness
2. Timothy 2:24 “And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness..”

Through it all remain humble, let me say it again, through it all REMAIN HUMBLE! You didn’t invent the wheel; there were people that did it before, there were people already that received the same revelations as you do now. There are also people living under the exact same vision for their lives, just as you do for your life. There’s nothing new under the sun, so I plead with you to remain humble at all times.

Timothy has been instructed to not strive (meaning, in this case, competing with others), but to be gentle unto all. Not everybody is going to have your point of view and not everybody is going to support you. You have to understand that there are going to be people that will disagree, as well as agree with you. Don’t take disagreement or criticism to heart, but learn to develop a character that will allow you to balance the bad and the good. Not everything I do is necessarily good for others, which is fine because criticism is teaching me to improve myself and to always know that I am not perfect.

Knowing this should help you to always look on the cross and to be thankful for everything you’ve got. It’s by grace that I get to continually encourage you with writings. It is by grace that you are talented in the very thing that it is you’re doing. It is also by grace that we’ve obtained the blood sacrifice of Jesus, which saved our lives. So always remember that anything you own and do is only given to you by the grace that is found in Christ Jesus.

Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.

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What’s up y’all? Been a while since I last wrote. I’ve tried to write a whole lot and post another blog entry, but nothing was truly flowing. Well this post is actually a sermon I was going to speak on with my bible study group. We all encounter situations where we have to come up with a decision. The decision we make can either turn out well or horrible for us. Each decision sharpen us and encourages us to either do better or stick to what was working. As we’re looking into this retrospect I hope that this will help you to understand – why it’s important in the first place. Let’s go..

…When Moses led the people of Israel out of Egypt to bring them to the Promised Land. It took the Israelites forty years before entering the Promised Land – a journey that was supposed to take only 11-days. God extended the Journey because of the people, whom Moses led, they were stiff-necked (definition: a proud or stubborn person:  one with a haughty bearing – Mariam Webster). 

Instead of trusting God knowing that Moses would not lead them wrong; they complained and went so far that they believed it would have been better for them back in Egypt as slaves – than wandering in the wilderness. 

Reading this I found myself hitting my forehead mentioning that they sound awkward. Truthfully when I observed it I found myself doing the same mistake. Instead of moving forward and be excited to get out of an stagnate comfortable situation, I’d complain and remembered how comfortable the old days were. I found it to be ironic because we don’t like change, we barely like to make spontaneous trips – we would rather stay within our comfort zone because it’s familiar to us. However, this will never allow us to receive things (blessings) that have been promised to us. There comes a time in your life where you just have to let go of the old – in order to get something new. Unless you let go of it – God will withhold your blessings. 

You reap what you sow; if you don’t sow you won’t grow. 

Change in growth is inescapable and I think unless we truly understand this – we’re always going to be in a losing battle against God. We desire for things to change, preferably within our comfort zone; unfortunately the way change will happen is always going to be uncomfortable and totally new to us – nevertheless, resisting it will only protract the process. 

As the forty years came to an end, God prepared the Israelites, before entering the Promised Land and commanded them what to do and what not. 

Preparation meets opportunity!

At times change isn’t so much what we are afraid of – its knowing that we aren’t prepared for what’s about to come.

How do you prepare for an unknown destination? You simply do what’s required of you now; believing that the outcome of it will meet the amount of work you’ve put into. Notice here what I said you’ve got to put in the required amount of work. There were two blind men who sought for Jesus to get healed. Jesus asked the two if they believe that he could heal them both said  said yes and got healed according to their FAITH (Matthew 9:27-29). Both were only to get to Jesus because they heard a crowd following Him, so out of their hearing they took heart and sought for Jesus. Both got what they wanted not because they only believed, but because they put their faith into action. Being uncertain sucks, if we were settled in every decision we made– ask yourself – would life be exciting? I doubt it. I hope that you didn’t missed what I was trying to portray here – both men didn’t wrote themselves up even though they couldn’t see Jesus.  The uncertainty of knowing where they’re heading allowed them to be hopeful believing that they’re heading towards the right direction. I believe that God, when it comes to our lives, wants us to be uncertain because uncertainty is supposed to fuel us, instead of scare us. Fuel us in a way that we prepare ourselves diligently in all things; whether it is for the coming of the Lord, for our dreams or just simple things. The more you prepare yourself – the closer you’ll get to your opportunities. You can’t be fearful, lazy or complaining while being on a journey to your destination. 


Through out all the commands God gave the Israelites there was one that struck out to me and I want to quickly speak on: 

Deuteronomy 11:26-28

See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse— the blessing if you obey the commands of the Lord your God that I am giving you today;the curse if you disobey the commands of the Lord your God and turn from the way that I command you today by following other gods, which you have not known.

Before I go deeper into it, let me explain this, a curse isn’t always tied into witches or evil spirits. We know that God tormented Saul with an evil spirit before (1. Samuel 16:14), but in this case it has nothing to do with any of it. 

Moses was simply speaking on the decisions we make concerning life. The outcome of your life is solely based on the decisions you choose to makeIf you decide what’s good for you – you’ll reap the positive benefits of it. However, if you decide for something that’s bad for you – you’ll have to deal with consequences that come along with the decision you made. The consequence you’ll have to deal with is what will turn into a curse for you. 


To be continued… 


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On the road to Damascus

„Saul Saul, why thou persecute me? Who art thou Lord? I am Jesus whom thou persecutes. It is hard to thee to kick against the pricks.“ (Acts 9:4-5 -KJV)

These were the words Saul (later Apostle Paul) heard while he was on his way to Damascus. Saul, the most Jewish out of the Jews, was permitted by the King to kill every person that preaches in the name of Jesus. Saul didn’t kill because he wanted to be a hitman; as a Jew he desired to do so because the doctrine preached by the disciples was seen as misconduct. It was not common to preach about a man who went on the cross, died, and rose from the dead to be the savior and equal to God (to some it still isn’t). The Jewish community doesn’t  play with the name God, which is a reason for Jesus’s death sentence. Religious people, in general, have a hard time understanding that – Jesus came not only for us to be saved, but also to get us to understand the God-concept of RELATIONSHIP! The Pharisees, Sadducees, Lawyers and Gentiles didn’t  know God. Even though many of them were educated and known in scriptures – it still wasn’t enough for God.

God cares more about your lifestyle than your educational background about His Word.

Why do I say this? Because it doesn’t mean anything to Him unless you live it! Let’s get back to Saul… On his way to Damascus, Saul got blinded by a light, out of the light Jesus spoke to him (look at the introduction). Due to this encounter, Saul has to be led to Damascus, where he didn’t eat in prayer for three days. It wasn’t until a disciple (named Ananias) sent by God met him and instructed him of what it was that God wanted him to do – before he received his eye-sight back (read the story in Acts 9:11-19). When I read this I saw similarities within myself… As one who wants to teach and help make the world better – change has to start with oneself. Unfortunately there’s no way around it lol..

Saul persecuted the disciples because he was hurting emotionally. Preaching the name of Jesus, in his eyes, wasn’t acceptable and went against his values. His values were his pride and joy, so for the disciples to come and create a national „disaster“ – was just unacceptable. His pride was hurt, so as a result of it, he was determined to make them pay for it…

Do you see yourself in Saul’s behavior? – I did see myself!

We all get into confrontations and uncivilized confrontation adds nothing but emotional pain. Pain, mostly, causes us to take improper actions. We are hurt, so we get resentful and even though we do not talk about it openly – we subliminal or (at times intentional) persecute the one/s that has hurt us. We start to look for ways on how to cause them the same pain we had. It’s human to do so, but this doesn’t make it right. Scripture tells us that „Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer“ (1. John 3:15 – NIV)… („But Alfred, I’m not a murderer!“) That’s known to me and I never said it – scripture did.

Sounds tough I know, did for me too…

Let me be transparent for a minute… Within the past years I’ve had former friends, random people and who not appear in my dreams. I take my dreams very serious and I’m humble enough to say that I get to interpret most of them. However, it all did not make sense to me. It was annoying, disturbing and just tiring. I know, despite what happened, I’ve forgiven everybody and wish them well. Nevertheless, my question was still hovering in the air, why wasn’t I free? If I believe in Jesus and He has set me free…wasn’t I supposed to be freed indeed? I’m sure I’m not the only person to have ever asked myself this! And if you’re still struggling with this question, I’m glad you’ve bumped unto my blog today. I got the answer… Here’s the clue…

You cannot cure emotional pain with spirituality!

As a matter of fact, we could be deeply wrapped around our spiritual senses, but be completely blinded towards our emotional health.

Let that sink in for a minute and continue to read…

You have to get this… We as a people, especially church folks, cover our emotional instability under the rug, by believing in prayer that God will take care of it. Well… He did; but at times it requires a bit more than just praying. Saul prayed for three days, but his physical health as well as emotional health did not occur, until the act of forgiveness happened. A lot of us don’t speak about our emotional pain because it could be taken for granted or laughed at. Due to this, we have so many broken relationships and frustrated people seeking for God – receiving NOTHING! It’s unfortunate that this way of thinking has spoiled an entire generation. Don’t get me wrong I believe in prayer and know that prayer is powerful, but to receive complete healing we have to act. The act of speaking openly about your pain, struggles etc. will allow you to heal during the process. Transparency is the key 😉 !

God heard Saul’s cry, but it took for Ananias to obey Gods instruction so that Saul could receive forgiveness. It’s not that we don’t have enough faith or believe in God, the problem is that we fail to act on the things God tells us. We don’t want to be seen as vulnerable because it could be seen as weak. We don’t like to get uncomfortable because it doesn’t feel right (familiar). And most of all we hate it to be in an place of uncertainty…

Saul didnt‘ know if he would ever receive his eye-sight back. Ananias didn’t think it was good to get close to him. Nevertheless, God made sure that Saul would receive what he asked for. Imagine Ananias would have disobeyed God – do you believe Saul would have received emotional health? Understand that my reason for pointing out emotional health instead of spiritual or physical is because they’re all tied in together. You cannot be perfectly fine in spirit, but completely dysfunctional within your emotions. It’s a three-way-relationship: Your spirit, your emotions & your physical being.

It takes God to reveal himself to us in Spirit, but it takes action from us to receive emotional health. Emotional stability is just as important as the other two; if you are not stable within your emotions everything else cannot be stable. Imagine having an emotional unstable partner – how draining would it be to deal with that person? The person could be the smartest and sexiest ever, however, the emotional roller coaster you had to face would be terrible.. Now picture how draining it is for God to deal with your emotional instability…

Saul emotions were hurt, which is why he persecuted the disciples. He received his eye-sight back once he prayed and surely spoke to Ananias about it openly. I believe the conversation the two had once Saul was healed – was a conversation of restoration. What you need is found in the acting on what God has told you… Don’t feel ashamed to speak openly about your pain, vulnerability can turn into accessibility, which will lead to an even greater possibility of _________(you fill in the blank).

Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.

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