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 Why women shouldn’t seek after men.

You know without being too spiritual, I’ll explain to you in a simple way, why women should not seek after men. I have found it extremely disturbing to see women take on a position they haven’t been equipped for. I say this not to offend women,  I’m not a misogynistic – I love y’all, but it’s important for women to know this. As a woman, I assume, you’re hoping for a man that’s mature enough to understand what’s important in life and take lead. Some just wait and have fairy tale thoughts of prince charming, while others take on the challenge and go on consistent dates. However, whenever a woman starts to date, whereas she’s specifically seeking for someone, the result of it – mostly– doesn’t meet her expectations. I know I’m not speaking for everyone, but I’m sure a few can relate.

Why are those expectations rarely met?

Life was created in order and structure; everything we do has to abide to its „rules“. If you want to lose weight – you’re required to a healthy diet and working out. If you want to gain further education & understanding – you’re required to study, go to school and read. So, shortly said, every desire requires an action and this being done in order with structure. It’s impossible to just sit and hope for a job without filling out applications. I think you get it… So what does this have to do with women not to seeking men? A relationship between a man and a woman has its own rules & guidelines, which is based on the foundation I just mentioned earlier: order & structure. Male are natural born hunters, if a man sees something he wants – he is going to get it. However, if he is not interested  – he won’t pay any attention to it. It’s simple. A woman on the other hand is different; women are more likely to develop the role of becoming a wife. They play with Barbie’s, love to baby sit (the only example that I could come up with lol) and hope for prince charming to come around and find them. In short, women are supposed to be hunted by men!

Okay, so what happens when a woman takes on a different role and starts to be the hunter? In my opinion, a woman is going against nature. I’m not saying that women aren’t supposed to take on leadership positions, but this is how I view it. There are multiple reasons for women to get frustrated while dating men. I’ll try to break it down and give you two examples:

  1. When a woman is fed up being by herself and starts to go men hunting – the woman takes on a role she’s spiritually, mentally, emotionally & physically not equipped for. This could result in dating a man that is completely lazy in all four stages (spirit, mental, emotion & physical).
  2. Because women are emotional (affectionate) a man is more likely entering the date thinking – all she wants is some physical attraction – whereas the woman is actually, unfortunately not always, seeking for true love.

What happens here is a complete turn around in order and structure – no longer is the man actively and passionate about getting what he wants, but has q tendency of being lazy and viewing the women as an easy catch. Here’s the clue ladies, if you want to be treated as the princess your dad said you are; stop searching for prince charming and live like the princess you’re ought to be. It’s getting tiring to hear women going on dates, to have a few connections with some guys, but then end up hurt because they’ve given themselves up too easy. It’s not only your fault ladies; us men are to blame too.

Many men know that they aren’t interested in certain women, yet because the woman makes herself so available – they don’t see anything wrong pleasing her physical need and move on. THAT’S WRONG! I can say that’s wrong because I used to do the same. I would date certain women, knowing that I’m not interested in them, but because they made it easy for me – I  saw nothing wrong in taking advantage of them. I say this not to brag, honestly this was immature of me – but I say this so you (men) don’t continue the same mistakes I did. Men, when you’re not interested in a woman – let her know; especially when she insist on it and tries sleeping with you. Women, if a man isn’t showing much interest, you have to know that there’s NOTHING wrong with YOU – just stop throwing yourself on him. It’ll benefit both parties.

Going back to the points I made – a man is there to lead, provide and protect. Whenever a woman throws this out of proportion, the man is being stripped of his position. You might not think that it’s that deep, but it really is. As a man you want to show your trophy, you want to be the one that brags saying: “ Look what I caught isn’t she beautiful? & Yes she’s mine don’t touch her!” Now, if this doesn’t happen and a woman does all of it, it hurts a man pride and makes order and structure ineffective. Men, know that I’m speaking of matured men, will no longer feel the need to lead, provide or protect. He wasn’t required to put in any work, so he has nothing to be proud of. The point that I’m making is that – we and I mean everybody men and women – have to come back to our given nature and stop going against it.

Ladies, if you want to be in a relationship but cannot find the right man – stop seeking and start working on yourself. It’s simple – you attract what’s within you. Work on your relationship with God, yourself and your goals. This is how you create a standard and men will respect you. Men will the know that they’ll have to have something going for themselves in order to meet/get/date you. It’s going to take while because men take longer maturing, but once this is understood and he truly wants you – HE WILL NOT STOP PURSUING YOU!

A short advice to the Men: if you know that you aren’t ready and are not interested in her, please – let her know and stop playing with her emotions. You’re not just hurting her, but you’re also making it hard for the next guy, who’s actually serious about it. I know I said I wasn’t going to be spiritual, but I just have to back this up with some scripture – for the haters LOL! Genesis 2:20-23 speaks about the creation of Eve. God took Eve out of the rib of Adam. Adam was the first person in the Garden of Eden, when Eve got added unto him – she wasn’t completely aware of her location. She had no knowledge of the things in the Garden. It was Adam who showed her around and taught her everything. Imagine Eve would have just taken on the role of Adam and try to instruct him and teach him on the things God has placed in the Garden. Everything would have been confused because she had no proper knowledge. I’m glad it didn’t go that way because this allowed order and structure to be functional. Ladies, allow a man to be a man and be the woman you have to be. I truly believe that if we stick to the nature of how God created things to be – we’re better off and will cause less hurt to one another. I hope this helped you Until then, God bless you :)!

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Don’t judge a book by its cover…

You know when you’re under the shower and start receiving clarity? Today was one of them…

I always had the need to speak about a particular topic. I always held off on because I was thinking that people weren’t ready for the things I would hit them with. However, it doesn’t really matter, after all are we never fully prepared for what’s about to hit us. It’s been boiling within my soul to just get all of the things the Holy Spirit revealed to me out.

There’s too much kept away from the people of God. Everybody wants to hear about God’s blessings and what He will do for them, but quite a few can take the truth. We all hate to be lied to, yet we lie – the sad thing about this is that we lie to ourselves more often than it’s needed. We try hard to portray a picture of sanity, stability and wealth; whereas most of us are broken, in stable and disconnected from God. To make things look good we tend to search for people who are doing worse than us. We gossip, talk down upon them, judge them for what they do, but fail to accept them for who they are. We all love to have a form of godliness, but are denying the power within (2. Timothy 3:5).

I’m aware that I needed to finish my last post, unfortunately is this not the continuation of it – but it’s required that I leave you guys with this.

I’m not afraid to speak and unfold unspoken topics, specifically addressing topics – the people of God have been avoiding (unless I missed out on something).

When I took a look at this picture – I cannot deny – my first impression was shocking. It took me a little while to keep a straight face and to really contemplate on it. As I did this I allowed God to intervene and change my perspective. I think those thoughts are worth sharing and probably needed to be heard (read) too.

One cannot deny the fact that looking at this picture – he wouldn’t immediately judge or laugh or just shake his head. This is how we function – especially within this stereotypical system. It’s hard not do so at first even though one might try hard to not judge. I thought and thought and thought and I was just thinking too much, until I let go of my thoughts and God stepped in. To be honest it doesn’t need God or a rocket sign to come – for us to understand that we’re all broken and need help. It doesn’t matter if you wear a suite and tie every day or you work at the strip club every night – WE ALL NEED HELP!

I personally am tired of Christians judging everything and everybody thinking they know it all – NO OFFENSE – but truth be told – WE JUST CAN’T KNOW IT ALL!

Whether you’ve read the bible twice or twenty times – God is God and God will never allow you to FULLY understand Him. …No one can comprehend what goes on under the sun. Despite all his efforts to search it out, man cannot discover its meaning. Even if a wise man claims he knows, he cannot really comprehend it (Ecclesiastes 8:17- NIV)

Coming back to the picture, which I know is very provocative, I purposely chose to speak upon. Not to get people mad at me, even though anger could be something good, but to solely understand the different facets of God working in our lives. He works in mysterious ways and to put Him into the box – makes it impossible for Him to be who He is. A lot of us have put God in form of jukebox – picking and choosing – when He is allowed to work in our lives and when He is not. We press the play button when we’re angry with somebody and pray for God to take vengeance on them. We press the play button when we’re hurt, wishing for God to hurt those in the same ways they did us. We press the play button – when we see people not obeying Gods commands and turn into the judge. Who made you the judge? Who told you that it’s allowed to judge another persons action? Scripture tells us to judge accordingly – is it possible to judge accordingly when you don’t know the person you’re judging?

We get our minds so wrapped around celebrities, keep up with their lives (much more than to focus on our own) – thinking that it’s okay for us to play the judge once they mess up! Now don’t get me wrong I’m not lashing out on anybody – this post is purely led by the Holy Spirit – for us all to understand. I don’t exclude myself from any of this because I once found myself doing this.

It’s time to change that – It’s time to develop a Christ-like-mind. A mind that will allow us to view everybody as equal – we’re all in it and nobody is getting out of it until God says so. The problem that I have is that – many fail to understand the principles of salvation.  If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, 13 for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” (Romans 10:9-13 – NIV).

Just to give you the facts, as you can see it’s also written there too, once we believe within our hearts and confess with our hearts – WE ARE SAVED! What does it mean? It means that what you believe and have confessed – has allowed God to write your name in to the Lambs Book of Life. You’re with Jesus; you’re guaranteed a place in Heaven. The only way for us to not enter into Heaven – is to never have accepted Christ or completely deny that Jesus is the Son of God – who died for our sins. Simple – that’s it!

Of course as you walk the journey there are going to be certain things that will change along the way. A certain lifestyle will not be available for you anymore – better said – it won’t feel the same anymore and you won’t enjoy it as you did before. The point here is not to judge, assume incorrectly here because we don’t know what these women are praying for. The only thing I can picture is that these women were praying for stability, health, income, and security and most likely to not have to come and do this again. You might have a few that love it – but I’m sure 90% of them don’t.

As you take a look at this picture, I want to challenge your thinking – I want to allow God to reveal himself in a different way to you. You know I had one tell me that there’s always a way out and if you don’t want to do something – you just don’t have to. I must say that this is easier said than done. It’s always easy to say that when you’re not the one in the position. Circumstances can get tough there are plenty of single mothers on welfare that are tired and need to feed their children. To do so many choose an easier way and go ahead stripping – that’s reality. Others might choose something else – everybody is different. I know that circumstances shouldn’t keep us where we don’t need to be, but many times – are we a hand away of getting out! Meaning: We all need a helping hand that will guide us out of our circumstance. Your perspective can change a lot, but how can you expect that from a person that cannot see their way out of their circumstance?

I believe that a lot of us – especially people within the church – are in a spiritual state of discomfort. You might not have to strip in order to provide, but you might be stripping in spirit trying to get that married Pastor. Many are stripping themselves off to be seen as the utmost worthiest person. Too many are confused, too many don’t know what to do and many more don’t know how to express themselves. It’s hurting people within the church and outside of the church. Everybody is focused on winning, many Christians are too focused on securing themselves a seat in heaven – that we all have forgotten the common good. God wishes for us all to be saved and not for us to save ourselves. We cannot work our way into heaven, but we can share our experience with one another and get heaven on earth.

As I pour my heart out – I pray that Christ may shine through us all and help us, help us all – to come together and to find comfort in Him. I’m a 100% sure that these women found an intimate moment with God – despite their actions. Yes, it doesn’t make it right to continue, but how about us (the people of God) go out more and be the helping hand that will show them the light to the open door of liberty…


God bless you 🙂 ❤

ps. I didn’t edit it properly, so don’t kill me for the grammar 🙂

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What’s up y’all? Been a while since I last wrote. I’ve tried to write a whole lot and post another blog entry, but nothing was truly flowing. Well this post is actually a sermon I was going to speak on with my bible study group. We all encounter situations where we have to come up with a decision. The decision we make can either turn out well or horrible for us. Each decision sharpen us and encourages us to either do better or stick to what was working. As we’re looking into this retrospect I hope that this will help you to understand – why it’s important in the first place. Let’s go..

…When Moses led the people of Israel out of Egypt to bring them to the Promised Land. It took the Israelites forty years before entering the Promised Land – a journey that was supposed to take only 11-days. God extended the Journey because of the people, whom Moses led, they were stiff-necked (definition: a proud or stubborn person:  one with a haughty bearing – Mariam Webster). 

Instead of trusting God knowing that Moses would not lead them wrong; they complained and went so far that they believed it would have been better for them back in Egypt as slaves – than wandering in the wilderness. 

Reading this I found myself hitting my forehead mentioning that they sound awkward. Truthfully when I observed it I found myself doing the same mistake. Instead of moving forward and be excited to get out of an stagnate comfortable situation, I’d complain and remembered how comfortable the old days were. I found it to be ironic because we don’t like change, we barely like to make spontaneous trips – we would rather stay within our comfort zone because it’s familiar to us. However, this will never allow us to receive things (blessings) that have been promised to us. There comes a time in your life where you just have to let go of the old – in order to get something new. Unless you let go of it – God will withhold your blessings. 

You reap what you sow; if you don’t sow you won’t grow. 

Change in growth is inescapable and I think unless we truly understand this – we’re always going to be in a losing battle against God. We desire for things to change, preferably within our comfort zone; unfortunately the way change will happen is always going to be uncomfortable and totally new to us – nevertheless, resisting it will only protract the process. 

As the forty years came to an end, God prepared the Israelites, before entering the Promised Land and commanded them what to do and what not. 

Preparation meets opportunity!

At times change isn’t so much what we are afraid of – its knowing that we aren’t prepared for what’s about to come.

How do you prepare for an unknown destination? You simply do what’s required of you now; believing that the outcome of it will meet the amount of work you’ve put into. Notice here what I said you’ve got to put in the required amount of work. There were two blind men who sought for Jesus to get healed. Jesus asked the two if they believe that he could heal them both said  said yes and got healed according to their FAITH (Matthew 9:27-29). Both were only to get to Jesus because they heard a crowd following Him, so out of their hearing they took heart and sought for Jesus. Both got what they wanted not because they only believed, but because they put their faith into action. Being uncertain sucks, if we were settled in every decision we made– ask yourself – would life be exciting? I doubt it. I hope that you didn’t missed what I was trying to portray here – both men didn’t wrote themselves up even though they couldn’t see Jesus.  The uncertainty of knowing where they’re heading allowed them to be hopeful believing that they’re heading towards the right direction. I believe that God, when it comes to our lives, wants us to be uncertain because uncertainty is supposed to fuel us, instead of scare us. Fuel us in a way that we prepare ourselves diligently in all things; whether it is for the coming of the Lord, for our dreams or just simple things. The more you prepare yourself – the closer you’ll get to your opportunities. You can’t be fearful, lazy or complaining while being on a journey to your destination. 


Through out all the commands God gave the Israelites there was one that struck out to me and I want to quickly speak on: 

Deuteronomy 11:26-28

See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse— the blessing if you obey the commands of the Lord your God that I am giving you today;the curse if you disobey the commands of the Lord your God and turn from the way that I command you today by following other gods, which you have not known.

Before I go deeper into it, let me explain this, a curse isn’t always tied into witches or evil spirits. We know that God tormented Saul with an evil spirit before (1. Samuel 16:14), but in this case it has nothing to do with any of it. 

Moses was simply speaking on the decisions we make concerning life. The outcome of your life is solely based on the decisions you choose to makeIf you decide what’s good for you – you’ll reap the positive benefits of it. However, if you decide for something that’s bad for you – you’ll have to deal with consequences that come along with the decision you made. The consequence you’ll have to deal with is what will turn into a curse for you. 


To be continued… 


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