It is interesting to see, how people jump from one relationship to the next; in hopes of finding, what was missing in the previous relationship. Let me tell you – the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. What you see isn’t necessarily what you’re going to get – looks are deceiving. If you don’t learn to water your own seed; every new beginning will not last. I’m not telling you to stick within a place where you don’t feel comfortable, although it would be right because growth happens in uncomfortable places. However, in order to start something new one is in need of a solid foundation. A solid foundation is the base of every new beginning.
Happiness is not found it is something YOU OWN – either you have it or you don’t!
The only way for you to own it is to learn how to sow it. Teach yourself how to be happy and nurture your happiness. Nobody else is going to be happy for you, if you don’t learn to be happy for yourself.
Nevertheless, if you feel the urgency of leaving somebody behind don’t jump into the next relationship. Learn to stay with yourself. There are always two sides to a story, the person you’ve left or left you don’t own every mistake. You too played your part, so try to figure out what you could have done better. Too many are afraid of being alone, I know being single isn’t popular (going into my 5th year lol), but I rather be single than to be miserable beside the next person.
The lack of making a distinct effort concerning the relationship is the reason why so many people end up in break ups. I can’t say much about marriage since I’m not married, but I believe that this somehow applies to the divorce rate too. We expect people to treat us a certain way. We wish for them to be this and that and all of the above. Yet fail to appreciate them for who they are and what they’re actually doing. Sometimes two just need to stick it out and be committed to one another. Both of you all are crazy… we tend to say that women are crazy, but we are ALL somehow crazy. You just need to find the amount of craziness you can put up with and live with it.
The beauty in a relationship isn’t found in what the person can do for you. The beauty lies in having – two crazy people staying committed to one another, growing and forming something beautiful.
There’s no relationship on earth that’s perfect. Stop looking at other people’s relationship. Stop believing the lies couples post up on social media and start working on YOUR OWN relationship. Groom your man/woman into whom you wish for them to become.
Woman, speak to the King in him. Man, speak to the Queen in her.
Treat each other as the both of you deserve – not with a love that fluctuates – but with an unconditional love that you’ve received from God.
And if it isn’t working out at all and you need to leave that person then do it. But give yourself some time to evaluate both sides. Learn from your mistakes as much as you’re learning from the mistakes he/she did. Don’t settle for the wrong person because somebody told you your standards are too high. Nevertheless, make sure you are living up to the standards you have created! Ladies, don’t pray for a Godly man, if you aren’t doing what God wants from you. Men don’t expect your future wife to be a virgin, if you are out there slanging.
Remember, you reap what you sow and you always attract what’s within you. I’m speaking out of experience – trust me.
The truth is everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the one/s worth suffering for. – Bob Marley
Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.
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