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The cycle of Relationships

It is interesting to see, how people jump from one relationship to the next; in hopes of finding, what was missing in the previous relationship. Let me tell you – the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. What you see isn’t necessarily what you’re going to get – looks are deceiving. If you don’t learn to water your own seed; every new beginning will not last. I’m not telling you to stick within a place where you don’t feel comfortable, although it would be right because growth happens in uncomfortable places. However, in order to start something new one is in need of a solid foundation. A solid foundation is the base of every new beginning.

Happiness is not found it is something YOU OWN – either you have it or you don’t!

The only way for you to own it is to learn how to sow it. Teach yourself how to be happy and nurture your happiness. Nobody else is going to be happy for you, if you don’t learn to be happy for yourself.

Nevertheless, if you feel the urgency of leaving somebody behind don’t jump into the next relationship. Learn to stay with yourself. There are always two sides to a story, the person you’ve left or left you don’t own every mistake. You too played your part, so try to figure out what you could have done better. Too many are afraid of being alone, I know being single isn’t popular (going into my 5th year lol), but I rather be single than to be miserable beside the next person.

The lack of making a distinct effort concerning the relationship is the reason why so many people end up in break ups. I can’t say much about marriage since I’m not married, but I believe that this somehow applies to the divorce rate too. We expect people to treat us a certain way. We wish for them to be this and that and all of the above. Yet fail to appreciate them for who they are and what they’re actually doing. Sometimes two just need to stick it out and be committed to one another. Both of you all are crazy… we tend to say that women are crazy, but we are ALL somehow crazy. You just need to find the amount of craziness you can put up with and live with it.

The beauty in a relationship isn’t found in what the person can do for you. The beauty lies in having – two crazy people staying committed to one another, growing and forming something beautiful.

There’s no relationship on earth that’s perfect. Stop looking at other people’s relationship. Stop believing the lies couples post up on social media and start working on YOUR OWN relationship. Groom your man/woman into whom you wish for them to become.

Woman, speak to the King in him. Man, speak to the Queen in her.

Treat each other as the both of you deserve – not with a love that fluctuates – but with an unconditional love that you’ve received from God.

And if it isn’t working out at all and you need to leave that person then do it. But give yourself some time to evaluate both sides. Learn from your mistakes as much as you’re learning from the mistakes he/she did. Don’t settle for the wrong person because somebody told you your standards are too high. Nevertheless, make sure you are living up to the standards you have created! Ladies, don’t pray for a Godly man, if you aren’t doing what God wants from you. Men don’t expect your future wife to be a virgin, if you are out there slanging.

Remember, you reap what you sow and you always attract what’s within you. I’m speaking out of experience – trust me.

The truth is everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the one/s worth suffering for. – Bob Marley

Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.

© Alfred Ntiamoah and authenticity2015

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You reap what you sow.

I totally believe that we’re all equal before God; we’re all his sons & daughters. What makes us different isn’t so much who we are before God, but how we approach life – which He gave us.

“God is not a respecter of person, but a respecter of principles” – Bishop T.D. Jakes

God created life with the principle of a cycle; you give and get, ups and downs, left and right, forward and backwards etc. There’s certainly, as we see, no way for one to work without the other – everything goes hand in hand. Skipping the giving part and expecting to receive is not going to work out too well. On the other hand, what goes around comes back around; this installs the importance of honesty and not trying to cheat your way out.

„Be nice to people on your way up because you’ll meet them on your way down“ – Wilson Mizner

Indeed, it’s impossible to cheat your way through life and not to reap its consequence. I’m not even trying to scare you, mainly just telling you to watch how you treat life and others. Nevertheless, this remains true – You reap what you sow!

Having made that experience I wondered why certain situations in my life seem unfruitful. What could I’ve done to deserve to be hit with more than I could actually bear? I always thought God doesn’t give us more than we can handle…As I was asking myself all these confused questions; I heard a small voice saying:

You’ve sown yourself into what you own and find yourself in.”

It hit me…although I’ve given God full custody over my life; it didn’t diminish the bad seed I’ve planted back then. God’s grace is always sufficient for us, however, the cycle of life remains, which means one will sow every seed sown. I just want you to leave with this… We are responsible for our actions, there’s no one that will own up to your mistakes. Nevertheless, since God is a good God, a giver of second chances; you can still come out of your situation.

Mistakes give you Wisdom; grow from each mistake and don’t do the same mistake twice.

Thank you for reading 🙂 until then, be blessed.

© Alfred Ntiamoah and authenticitee2015

Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Alfred Ntiamoah and authenticitee with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.